Thanks Ginger. He feels that only PA and sex outside marriage is bad but any other behaviour acceptable.

Yesterday he called and we talked. He sounded very formal and I did too.

M 11 Dated for 4 years before then
Me 35 H 39
D 10
BD Feb 2016
A 2015 Dec
I was never in a R with the OM. Had a one night stand & I stopped contact immediately
I confessed the A to H and we went for MC