Oh my goodness Gordie, I SMH when I read some of the stuff your W is saying. She is pretty deep in the swamp for sure. I agree with others that I wouldn't get yourself into friend zone and equally I would get things signed, sealed and sorted. She may well not be as amenable if/when things go south.

I find it incredible to be blissfully planning to traipse down the aisle and I want to give her a good shake and shout - have you learned nothing???!!!

This is a rough time and my heart goes out to you. Equally, foundations are being built for a life going forwards - yours: solid - hers: shaky. She just doesn't know that yet..

Stay strong Gordie and know that we've been there and we are all out here for you..

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus