Unless I missed something, I don't understand why the subject of exposure has risen again. GW talked to the OM's W before he came to the board. Although he did consider exposure at one time, he changed his mind. GW has not said he was considering it again.......he just said he wished he had been emotionally stronger and had taken a harder line when he first knew about the A.
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I can only speculate, but it sounds as if WW and OM are having significant issues and may possibly be breaking up, and she is blaming me for it. I plan on spending as much time out of the house and away from her as possible during this time. She seems to have fixated her anger on me for some reason, possibly blaming me for the breakup.
Staying out of her way and not mentioning the MR, OM, OM'W, etc, is a good idea. Let them have their spat......and don't give in to the temptation to rescue her when she shows signs of being hurt by OM. What I mean is don't sympathize, cater, or discuss the A.
And....don't take a breakup (if it happens) to mean the problems have been fixed. If she sees too much glee from you, she may misinterpret and feel that she must pull away from you even more so....in order for you not to think she will! bounce back into the MR.
Continue to shine brightly as the new man you are learning to become. .
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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