But I have this feeling that my being impatient might be dying the chamce of reconciliation taking place at some point.
How many times have you heard this on this site: "This is a marathon, not a sprint." YES, being impatient will lower if not outright kill any chance of reconciliation. Which is another reason why this is about YOU and not HER! If you want to reconcile, then BE PATIENT. Stop pushing. Stop worrying about what she's doing. DETACH.
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But on another note, I do need to move on and focus on myself. And that is difficult with a WW doing her own thing with whoever
Hence, "detach." Why is it hard to focus on you because of something your W is doing? By definition, if you're focused on you, you're not worried about what she's doing.
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And I am here ducking and dodging women who maybe showing interest.
Why are you ducking and dodging? If you're not ready to call it quits, then shut that down. Don't duck and dodge, just flat out tell whoever that you're not ready for that, yet. Don't be passive. Passivity is one of the MNG traits that helped you end up where you are right now.
Look, we all understand what you're feeling and how much it [censored] to be where you are. You'd give ANYTHING to be ANYWHERE other than where you are now. D, R, whatever, just let it end, right? Well, if "stop hurting" is your goal, then "D, R, whatever" isn't going to get you there. Because the truth is that the piece of paper isn't what changes things. Time is.
Take this time that you have. Introspect. Decide what YOU want, and what's best for YOU. Don't rush, don't be in a hurry. It doesn't work, there really aren't any shortcuts, and you'll make things worse for you, and for those around you if you try.
