25yearsMLC 10 Later I FILE D part 7

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are you saying you'd never ask a woman you're dating, why they divorced?

I guess what I'm saying is that when I was recently divorced and just starting to date, asking about divorce came very early in the conversation. Part of that, to your point, was seeing who they blamed and how they thought about things, and part of it was wanting to share my own story because it was cathartic to do so.

Eventually, however, it was no longer cathartic and didn't really inform how I was living or thinking about things any more, so it was just less relevant.

I'm not saying I would never ask now, it's important to understand your partner's past and hear their full narrative, but it wouldn't come as early in the relationship and it wouldn't be as significant a factor in understanding the whole person.

For instance I was dating a woman who said her son got caught smoking in high school and had to pay a $5 fine. He paid the fine all in pennies, and she thought that was funny and supported him doing it. That was really not compatible with how I parent, so that combined with other things influenced me to stop dating her, whereas early on the divorce narrative was "the thing" if that makes sense.

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