You should not ask her what she wants. She already knows you want(ed) to save the M. You already know that she doesn't want to save the M, at least not RIGHT NOW. What is there to talk about?
This is about what YOU want. If you do not want to be divorced, then don't push it forward. If you DO want to be divorced, then tell her you need a response by XX date and if she doesn't respond, then tell your L to go ahead and file and have your W served. Your agreed divorce will turn into a contested one, but it will be moving forward.
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Keep the D moving if that's what you want. While that's moving forward, be "done" with her if that's what you want or stand for your M if that's what you want. Whatever you do, though, commit to it and STOP WORRYING ABOUT HER AND WHAT SHE'S DOING! You'll never find any kind of peace unless you do.
Unless and until you accept that there's NOTHING you can do to control what she does, and live for YOU and your kid, you're going to keep hurting, going to keep spinning, and you won't ever move closer to something better than the hell you're in right now.
This isn't about her. It's about you (and your son). Stop making it about her, decide what it is YOU want, figure out what your timeline for that is, and do the best you can to achieve your goals.
