Read NMMNG and work on the exercises in it. Be conscious of what you say and do at all times. STOP all passive/aggressive behavior. Say what you mean. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want. Be direct. Get ready to be surprised, you'll find people respect you much more and women will find you more attractive. There's really no downside!
AS...... Yes this is the book I am reading, in fact just started it for a second time. When I met with my IC the other day I was only a couple chapters in and I told her that this book was such an eye opener that I felt everything I have done since BD was all wasted because I didn't realize this about me. I've worked on all the stuff my W said was wrong with me(I agree with most of what she said) but I could see myself falling into the same patterns once my divorce is final because of NGS! I have a ton more work to do,
