[color:#3333FF] all of this^^^ is just crappy h behavior. And since it's been like this for a long time, it's not going to change. What if this is the best it will ever get?
Yes seems as if this is the best it will ever get with him. He feels he is a great person. After I started NC he wrote me an email citing my weaknesses and things I need to change. He told me it is all my personal weaknesses that let to the A/ ONS. He says if I had addresses my weaknesses and had friends I will know that there are people with worse marriage problems and they endure. His main message was I should address my weaknesses. He wrote paragraphs. His main message was I drove him to be the person he is because I disrespected him, I am used to getting things easy and dont endure when faced with a challenge. He says our problems were nothing compared to many marriages so I shouldnt feel unhappy. He did not menton any of his weaknesses. I did not respond to that.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
his behavior has nothing to do with your ONS. Nothing.
In fact it's clearly a great weapon for him to use against you. I'm no shrink but the mood swings and chronic dismissal of your needs/wants is just pathological. So is the use of religion.
Which is not something you can do anything about. Regardless, how do you want to live the rest of your life?
I just want to be happy and decided to let go. I will work on myself and kid only. I am feeling better than I had in all years of marriage. I did not realise the pain and stress it was causing me.
M 11 Dated for 4 years before then Me 35 H 39 D 10 BD Feb 2016 A 2015 Dec I was never in a R with the OM. Had a one night stand & I stopped contact immediately I confessed the A to H and we went for MC
