Dude if your W is anything like me, things are gonna get MUCH worse as she realizes you're not her errand boy any more.
I'll give you some homework. The next time this comes up, be direct: tell your W that you'll no longer do these things for her, and she needs to learn to handle them herself. The first time I did that was both terrifying and liberating.
This NGS thing is the exact reason I was unable to set boundaries early on and why I couldn't kick her out of the house the night I found out. I will be talking to her tonight as she scheduled something on top of my Divorce Care meeting. I had to mill last week for the same reason and I WILL NOT miss two weeks in a row. Our kids have activities they need to get to so she will either have to cancel her plans or have one of her family members drive the kids around. And yes, it is both terrifying and liberating!
