Not "damaged goods" - but damaged men b/c they are divorced and that's something that wounds. (And so am I).
Someone who has been wounded is not necessarily damaged, nor is everyone who has been divorced irreparably compromised in some way.
I had this fear before I started dating, but experience has shown me that there is really no difference in the dating population now than there was when I was in my 20's in terms of "damage". Everyone, without exception, has their issues, but its on a spectrum. Some people have serious issues in their past but deal with it exceptionally well, and other people haven't faced much adversity at all but deal with life's little challenges poorly.
People can take serious baggage away from a divorce and never recover from it, while others learn from the divorce, evolve, and emerge better and stronger than they were before.
I think if you go into dating expecting to find damaged souls that's all you're going to see.
One way that dating has changed for the better since I was in my 20's is that a lot of the friction has been removed -- with all the dating apps, sites, etc. there is no longer a challenge in figuring out who's available and who's not, or instrumenting ways to meet people. You can instantly figure out who's available to date and learn at least a little about them before you even meet.
There are great and amazing men out there for you to meet, and if you approach it with the right outlook, you'll find them!
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
