Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

[joejoe1]

Tate,

Can I ask you a question? Or you trying no to hurt your wife feelings? Or you trying not to make her upset or mad at you?

Because it seems as if you are trying your hardest not to rock the boat. I think I posted it to you before, but you should read, "tough love", it's a big eye opener and how you can't condone certain actions and how you have to create that early conflict with your spouse to sake them up. You don't argue with them, but you state what you won't tolerate from them and that you are only willing to love a certain way. You make that statement from a position of confidence and certainty, never looking back if they decide that they are not willing to except the boundaries you laid out.

Without this tough love, you are not really showing your S love. A person who really loves a person, informs them of what they have done wrong. The author uses the drug addicted scenario a lot.

If you child was on drugs would you accept them using drugs? Would you allow them to use drugs in your home and would you fund their drug habit? If the answer to all the questions are no, then apply that same principle to your wife.

If your child continue using drugs, what would your hard stand be. In your mind what would you have to do to help your child make a hard decision to get help to get help. I know funding it and allowing them to use in your home, wouldn't be an option. Right!

Look at your W as a drug addicted, would kicking her out help or hurt her in the long run, not the day of.