How a treehouse can cost you your marriage

[25yearsmlc]

When I was away from my kids those 4 days it hurt the worse, I'll never forget those days. But even then I never completely wrote my W off, but I was pissed off and angry.

what would she have to do or say, for you to write her off, even temporarily?

The answer I am getting from your thread is, pretty much nothing. I worry that you don't have a line beyond which, she cannot go. I worry that she knows this.

Today was the first day in a long time since I really let the TRO effect my thoughts about the whole sitch, (I mentioned why a few post back). Perhaps a sign I need to heal from it a little longer, evaluate whether or not I have truly come to terms with it.


It would take an emotional Hercules to come to terms with this in under a few years. Rug sweeping, however, is a lot faster.

I know that prior to all this, if someone came to me and told me they were going through what happened to me, I would tell them to wake up, you deserve better than that.

when you are in the maze, it's hard to see that. And yes, you deserve better.

Again I can not excuse what she did, but in the last 6 months she completely changed


this ^^^sentence should read, "cannot excuse AND she's completely changed." Meaning, she now treats me with contempt. Has no limits to what she will do if she's angry or frustrated.

... stop going to church/reading her bible, became less involved with the kids (even blew off signing them up for school, and lied that she did), started drinking again (socially), got into social media, and the list goes on.


Any how, I just feel like she's going to come back to earth some day.

after you describe a change in behavior that covers a lot, you seem to think that it makes it MORE likely she'll wake up and revert to her old self.

I'm not at all sure that's true.

I suggest you:

1) trust that this is who she is now and IF/WHEN a change comes,

cross that bridge -

2) MEANWHILE, stop teaching her that she can treat you anyway she wants.

And try not to do what I did, which is to stay in a m based on a partner's potential as a spouse.

Reality is all that you have. And your kids are watching. Model healthy boundaries and enforce them. If you won't enforce them, don't pretend to have them b/c your kids will learn not to have them either.