Hey Jim, sorry I got behind, but I am up to date now. I have to say that I am pleasantly surprised to hear such a positive report about your W. Like you said, I don't want to get my hopes up too much too quickly......but it sounds good.
IMHO, one of the problems that stem from a SSM is that touching becomes less and less. I encourage you to become more comfortable in making non-sexual touches. Begin with those type of everyday, casual touches. A slight touch on her elbow when you pass in the hallway; your hand on the small of her back while walking through a door together; your hand slightly touching her shoulder when you are saying goodbye in the mornings; a slight rub or pat to the center of her back, etc.
Touches that feel more intimate or romantic to women are touching her hair; the back of her neck; anywhere on her face; anywhere on her body except her arm, shoulder, and the center of her back.....if your hand doesn't linger... .
Don't try going from non-sexual to more intimate touching in just a few days, especially if all touching had practically been non-exsistant for some time. You may have to start small and work your way up to the more intimate type of touching.
One tip I'll pass along is to make those touches light. Heaviness or stiffness feels awkward to the one receiving the touches. Don't glare at her to see how she responds. This is the woman who has had children with you, so don't let it make you feel like you are back in 7th grade again. Practice being relaxed and confident. As she becomes more relaxed and receptive to your touches, she will feel more comfortable in something more intimate.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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