I saw Mr. OM there, too! He was driving a truck in the parade and came up to me afterwards and asked me how I was doing and was telling me about the recruiters there to see his son for the game."
I can tell you are really angry. But try to step outside of it for a minute and see it from your son's perspective. Your S doesn't know anything about what's going on. He is on friendly terms with OM. He was taking pictures for the yearbook which means he was probably all over the place and seeing/ talking to a lot of people which apparently included OM. They spoke briefly, and moved on. And this got you so angry that you wanted to punch OM over and over again in the throat. There is literally nothing about that interaction that justifies your anger. So first, ask yourself WHY you are so angry, what are you really angry about? Second, ask yourself if your desire to keep S and OM from ever talking is a reasonable one. And third, if you feel it is a reasonable request, then ask yourself is you want S to know everything, because the only way you can reasonably expect him not to talk to OM is if you explain the entire sitch to him.
But the way things are right now, if OM runs across S during events like this what do you expect him to do, ignore your son and walk the other way? How do you think that would make your son feel, given that he knows nothing about your sitch?
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At least W came upstairs right after I went up and put her hand on my shoulder and asked me "Are you okay?" And I kind of played it off and didn't show any anger even though i was SEETHING.
I went back and read your first post again to see if communication has been an issue in your M and it sounds like it has. She could no doubt see you were angry, how could she not? It's very apparent just from reading your post. She asks you about it and you completely shut her out. You retreated inside your walls and pulled up the drawbridge leaving her out in the cold. How do you think that made her feel? Certainly not more connected and intimate with you. What would have been a 180 from your previous behavior in the M? Would it not have been to sit down with her and share your feelings about how angry you were, and why? What people don't seem to realize is sharing your feelings with a loved one doesn't ONLY mean happy feelings. THAT is easy! The hard part is sharing with them when you are angry, sad, depressed, mad, blue, etc. But THAT is what makes people feel connected.
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Idunno. I think it was a good "step."
Sounds like it all went quite well! Just keep in mind there usually aren't any big moves in piecing, it's a series of baby steps. It's a long process, don't try to rush it! But it sounds like you are off to a really good start.
