[quote=Parkema]Hi Lovelyp, Separation although wrong With all due respect, I don't think it's wrong to separate from this man at all.
Lovely, you are protecting yourself. That is healthy.
By getting a bit of space, you may see yourself and your h (and marriage) in a new light.
There are times we stay in or enter a relationship based on our spouse's potential as our partner, not as they really are.
I did this myself. I saw things that validated my choice to stay, believing he was simply confused or had too many FOO issues and would come out of it and wake up and really be who I think he once was...
I spent a lot of energy maintaining the illusion that my h was invested in us & our m the same way I was. I accepted things I should not have accepted. I will always wonder what might have happened if I had enforced boundaries earlier. And I have to live with that regret.
Going NC is the simplest healthy way to get the distance you need to breathe freely and think about where you want your life to go.
How you want to live it and what you want to model for your children about boundaries and healthy self respect. Life is short.
Be the author of your own life. Write the next chapter yourself, write it based on how you want the novel of your life, to go.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
