I had the same q when I arrived. I called a coach to come up with a plan. It’s a lot of experimentation to see what works. If doing x draws you closer together then do that. If it doesn’t, then stop doing x. The book explains this.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
