Again, me and my W (WW) are living apart; and if you see on my previous page; she texted me "Mr. X is no longer a part of my life"... However, I still see W is following this person on some social media stuff.
She is still playing with you. She sent you that text without asking a single question that required an answer from you.
Until you get control of your own reactions, she is going to yank you around. She is still not ready to reconcile. If there was any humility in her heart, she would not have sent a text worded that way. Remember, when she gets her heart right, you will see her attitude change, too. Attitude, words and actions need to be aligned. Until then, you have nothing to discuss.
Even if the OM dumped her, or she dumped him.......it doesn't mean she is ready to behave like a wife again. I hope she won't go to OM#2, but if she doesn't make some big changes in herself, it is probable.
Chris, she is going to temp check you to see if you are still her backup plan after informing you about OM being out of the picture (which I doubt will stick). I hope you will be strong and not cave to her game playing.
As long as you are separated from your W, leave her family alone. They are her family.....not yours.
What are you doing every week that gets you out of the house? Do you have friends that are not tied to her family or relatives? You need some friends that are not attached to her. Know what I mean? What are you doing that puts you out there with other people?
You are doing better. Keep at it.
((Hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
