I agree with others that he's exploring things that happened in his childhood and projecting on to you. What he wanted to say to his Mum - you didn't look after me and feed me properly - he's saying to you..

It sounds a little bizarre and out of touch with reality. I agree that your H doesn't follow the 'classic' MLC pattern. He's still in the family home and seems to be slow burning. But I have read about MLCers (a minority) who were this way.

When I read your accounts, I feel he would really benefit from seeing a therapist, but I guess that's for him to choose - he's not going want to hear that from you would be my guess.

Keep being awesome anyway HaWho xx

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