Oh yeah, life goes on...

[Sotto]

"if she is never haunted by the deep pain she is inflicting on the people who loved her the most, she has no empathy. And she makes a lousy partner. And if she is haunted by it, but does nothing to rebuild something, then she makes a lousy partner."

I read this on Gordie's thread and it stayed on my mind. Do you think it is possible for the MLCer to go on and have a thriving relationship unless they 'track back' and address the deep wounds caused?

The closest my XH came to any sort of apology was along the lines of - I know I made mistakes - BUT - I hope you'll see that I'm a decent and genuine guy who truly knows what he wants now - a new family.

I think decent and genuine is what decent and genuine does...but actually XH and OW do seem to be making a go of it - maybe some do go on to thrive with a new partner?

Just musing - I think we are way past any possibility of reconciliation, but I do feel that some sort of healing of the rift and wound would be a good thing.

Perhaps he is haunted. Can you cheat and not be haunted? I guess it goes back to the original quote above - if you aren't....

I may sound pensive, but actually it's been a fun week with lots of singing dancing and able to help a really good friend in crisis too...

Hope everyone is having a good weekend xx