Coly - Thanks for responding. The ducks are already dressed and frozen so naming them might not be helpful. The would be unlikely to come when they're called
Your update struck a cord with me. I am still posting here a bit because I feel an obligation to this place and these people to pay forward the help that I have received, but like you, I don't really know what to say that would be compatible with the DB model. Perhaps I've gotten cynical.
Good news about your D. It sounds like she's blooming in college and growing into a wonderful young woman. Odd about her father reaching out, but then perhaps not. People grow and change over time and perhaps he feels that now that she's almost an adult that he can have a mature relationship with her now as two adults and not so much father and child. I don't know any of the history there but as we've both learned here, it's best to not over-analyze things but just accept them.
As far as your H is concerned - I've got nothing. He baffles me just like I am sure he baffles you. It does seem like he's firmly "friend-zoned" you and is comfortable in his life. After all this time I honestly can't see anything changing without the application of some sort of outside force. Sorry - but that's what it looks like from here.
The leaves are in brilliant leaf here now with the fall colours in full chorus. Today's list for me includes working on my own garden to get it ready for winter. Fortunately I'm not "little" at nearly 6' and 100kg but I can sympathize with the hard work you'll need to do. I promised STBX that I would leave the garden pretty much as it is through to next spring so that she can get some heritage plants that we got from her grandparent's farm but am starting to give thoughts to changes that I'll be making.
Be kind to yourself. You have shown compassion and love that is far beyond the average. You are extraordinary and need to remember that.
((Coly23))
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
