How a treehouse can cost you your marriage

[Clyde]

So detaching has not worked good for me, I'll go a couple hours - maybe a day thinking I'm ready to detach, but then I go the opposite, thinking about my love for her. I really started to pound in my head the other day that detaching is the best chance our R has at this point. I'm also starting to think about the dynamic that would play out if she came back tomorrow, would I be on eggshells while she did as she pleased, quite possibly unless she is questioning that I will stick around.

I find myself debating if not pursuing might be enough detachment to trigger the W to work on the M.

In detaching, I battle with giving up my unconditional love for her which has not wavered to this point, I've seen it mentioned that you can detach in a loving way but I don't quite get that one yet.

When we were still living together and I was trying to fix the R all the time, on two or three occasions I told her fine, she can have it her way we are done, when I did this she was always willing to talk about the R the next day.

She's been working doubles all week so we have not had too much interaction, she stopped by last night after work to drop some stuff off for my D, it was late -10:30, she brought in her dinner and ate it at the table, I sat with her but we did not talk to much, I felt sorry for her, it [censored] to eat alone, thats the only reason I can think why did she not eat at her own place... its only 10 minutes away. When she left I wanted to say text me when you get home safe, it was so hard not to.

So while I battle the notion of detaching, I can say I am more dead set than ever to not pursue.