Act Now or Cry Later

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Peace - there have been some w/live-ins. Cadet mentioned one to me early on and he knew her personally. I can't remember her name. But, I try to post a lot as I hope it helps both those who have live-ins and those with limited contact.

Bttrfly, Ownit, Roist and Sotto - thanks for posts. So nice to hear from you all.

Tonight I came home from work and s12 + h were eating burgers. I asked if this was their dinner and h said it was lunch?!? But they had lunch at school of course. S13 ate elsewhere after school. (This has happened several times now where I come home and they are having this "lunch" at 5:30.)

So I asked everyone if they were still hungry and of course the kids said no. H then sent me a text saying he wanted to "nip this in the bud." He told me it seems I am regularly trying to dump my responsibility of making dinner?!? Then he said it was no problem for him as he could take care of himself but that I had to take care of the kids?!? I feed them every night so I have no idea what he is talking about.

And that's what I wrote back; that I was confused. I told him I arrive at 5:30 and everyone is eating a huge meal and not hungry at 6:00. (And I didn't write it but I thought DUH!)

He then wrote back that the kids need calories as they are thin and malnutritioned!

I wrote back and said he cracked me up texting from down the hall when he swore he would never be that type. He replied that he does not want to fight in front of the kids and that is why he texts?!? I did not respond. But later he totally avoided eye contact with me. He was leaving rooms as I walked in and just avoiding me. He seemed really shy for the call out. He used to be so direct and blunt.

I know this sounds nuts but hunger and lack of food were big issues in his childhood. His mom did not cook for him often and he was hungry a lot. I wonder if this is projection? Or him talking to his mom?

Another thing he is doing that is weird? He wants the kids to eat the same lunch he always ate in his childhood: pizza. He orders it for them constantly. And he lived off that for many many years as a young adult and maybe a kid, too.

Job- if you are reading, is this something you have seen before?