Maybe to see if you will immediately drop what you are doing and run back into her arms. It could be a test to see if she still has you on the hook.
I second this.
I caught my first wife cheating before we got married. I forgave her, but she never put the work in. She never really expressed remorse. We eventually did get married about four years later after I felt secure again, but she cheated again (in hindsight, I'm pretty sure she was cheating when I proposed to her). It was a recipe for disaster.
This time around, after S and I filed D, I started dating and XW (who was then STBXW) went full court press on me. For weeks I got to hear about how I was supposed to be her forever. About how she would never tell anyone else other than our daughter that she loved them. That she would never believe anyone else who told her that. That she would send OM away in a heartbeat for me.
It was all BS, obviously, but I JUMPED at it, and she got to play Lucy with the football and put me in my place again.
I hurt my GF, badly, and what happened in June is still a major dynamic in our relationship. I was advised here that it was too early for me to start dating and I ignored it. It really was. I was still attached to XW even though I thought I wasn't. So now I'm dealing with the consequences of that in the form of a relationship that's not as strong as it should be, and pain to someone I love, plus an XWW that's even worse than she was before, which puts that much more stress on me.
Don't jump. Don't make it too easy. Make sure she wants to WORK for you. Make sure that she does the same work on herself that you're doing on YOURSELF. If both of you can do that, you'll have a great restored M. If not, then you'll be back here. Or you'll give up on the R and become the WAS.
