Thanks, Sandi - really. Sometimes it hurts to hear the truth, but that's why I come here. I promise, no more apologies, no more R talks. I still have trouble seeing how an R talk will ALWAYS set me back, BUT I'm going to trust you 100% on this. If I do it again, please rip me to shreds in public.
Zues, thanks for your feedback. To be clear, I don't enjoy the screaming and having her around. I don't enjoy enabling her (though maybe I'm conditioned to do so after 18 years of M). I believe I've made big strides; I'm getting to the point of not accepting this behavior from her, but I'm not completely there yet. Your analogy of the addict is VERY helpful, and I'll try to remember that as I'm dealing with her. She has already filed for D, and the finances are as protected as possible. Mediation will happen soon, but it's not scheduled yet.
I'm trying, y'all. Everyone's posts today have given me a lot to think about. I appreciate it.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
