Hey Don.....I think it is pretty cool that you are able to take a vacation by yourself and are confident to do so!
It does sound like you are better off without your W. From your reply to me she was not honest and seemed to have a lot of drama. I am sorry you had to go through it but I get the sense you are in a better place. It is great to see someone come out on the other side and they are doing great!
I also think it is ok to be picky and I am not one to put myself out there either. Your right you probably do need to push yourself a little more but if your happy that is most important and you say you are. I am sure one day you will meet someone when you least expect it and they will fit all of your qualifications. Why do you think you have not put yourself out there that much and or are indifferent right now towards dating?
I like how you stated about wearing out your real like friends. Mine were very supportive in the beginning but unless you go through something like this no one really knows. They still ask me how things are going but I think it is more out of obligation than anything else. Most people get tired of hearing the stories and while I don't expect them to fix anything as you know it just feels good to talk about.
It's been 11 years for you. Do you think you have got over the hurt and pain she caused you? In the end you referenced her A and how they are still married is the reason I ask.
I hope you are right as well but I don't think I am going to have the patience to see this all the way to the end.
