I think I am making more of an observation than anything just because I have known her for 16 years.
I get it, but again she is not the same person that you knew for the last 16 years. I am totally convinced now that they will never be that person again.
DBers use words like fog, MLC, limerence etc so they can put a label on why this is happening. I use to do the same thing. Took a MLC test online and answered the questions how I thought my wife would. Test came back she was MLC. Then I thought wow I just have to wait this out and she would snap out of it.
Sometimes people just change, grow apart or have different goals and values.
Is it unfair that one person gets to make the decision to break up a family for three other people? Absolutely! But my mother always use to tell me son life isn't fair.
Will there be consequences down the road for them? Fck yeah there will be and they will have to deal with them accordingly.
If I have learned one thing from this process it's that I will never ever again try to keep someone in my life that doesn't want to be in it.
Again boss, you are doing great just keep getting better everyday.
