Although it would wipe out most of my retirement savings, I'm thinking about paying her the full amount right after the D is final.
Hmmm. I'm not sure that's a good idea. Why not accept her ridiculous conditions on the house for the time being, and then if you get to conditions 3 or 4, you can use your retirement savings at that point?
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
