Saw my W for the first time this week last night at my D's soccer practice. I went to the gym before so I was wearing a tank and showed up looking jacked!
When I arrived she wasn't overly happy, talkative or engaging. Just sat in her lawn chair, either messing around on her phone or watching my D. I made some small talk here and there but for the most part was playing soccer with my youngest, doing my thing, acting happy and "as if". I probably only stood next to her and chatted for about 10 of the 50 minutes or so we were together.
Does me not acting a certain way have an effect on her? When she see's me acting happy, not pursuing her, asking questions, calling her, etc. does that make her mad? Does that cause them to act mad, etc. to see if they get some sort of reaction out of us? I am not talking about reconciling and her wanting to come back but if they are not getting the positive affirmation from the LBS how that impacts them emotionally? If we do not feed their ego's by pining away for them how does that change the thought process?
She definitely seems to be on a roller coaster of emotions which is pretty cool to observe from a distance. I feel like a Discovery Channel photographer in the wild observing the natural life of some wild animal.
