My therapist told me that the reason why I cannot rationalize anything my W says or does is because she has borderline personality disorder (BPD). Sometimes she loves me and wants to stay married and other times she wants to leave and wants me to move on. Because of the BPD, the therapist has recommended forcing her out of the house, changing the locks, seeking a restraining order and divorcing her with no contact. With all of that said, she's really done nothing wrong except for stating that she's not happy in our marriage. While I recognize that he's an expert, I'm simply not willing to follow his advice. I have no desire to force a divorce that I don't want to occur. She will be leaving very soon anyhow as she received keys to her apartment earlier this week. The therapist simply wants me to divorce and find a new mate so I can be happy in the future. What I have tried to explain to him but he doesn't get is that I will not seek a new mate due to my inability to accept divorce. I believe you choose one mate for eternity, regardless of what the law says, she will always be my wife.
BD: 5/28/17 "We're like roommates, there is no passion anymore" Early October she is moving out so she can "think about what she really wants in life" 10/22/17 She's gone
