Fighting my way out of the dark Part 5

[joejoe1]

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I have a counter opinion. I think those moments are times you can work on your strength and show your wife that you are changing. Every post you have made today on this topic, is about what your wife is getting out of the conversations. What are you getting? What can you learn from them. How can you show your wife that you are in better control of your emotions and you no longer will allow her to mess with your emotions.

You said earlier that one of your wife gripes was E abuse, and you owned up to it by say, "you would be detach and go days without talking to her". If she is opening up about feelings, why not validate, listen and show your strength emotionally. You no longer have to run, because you are confident about who you are and what you want out of life. She no longer controls your actions, and being a part of a conversation she initiates only shows her that you have 180 one of her gripes.