Hi OwnIt, thank you for dropping by and for your support.
I have no idea what prompted H's contact, if it was for a reason he will make it known when he is ready.
My children are older so they have their own independent relationship with their dad that I don't get involved in, so holidays are not an issue for me, I am lucky in that respect, I am sad to read that your h causes your s confusion and hurt with his bouncing around, all you can really do is be your s constant and give him the stability and love of at least one parent who he can rely on. He will really thank you and respect you for it in the long term,
