In laws is a tricky one. I got along well with my ex in-laws. They were transatlantic and we holidayed with them most years. When XH and I separated, I was in touch with them - And they all said - we love having you as a SIL, DIL etc. But then they just dropped right off the grid and didn't respond to future messages from me. I didn't contact them much - just a HBD/HNY and after not getting any response, I stopped getting in touch.

I was so upset about their reaction and I guess I had hoped we had relationships that would survive our S and continue. Now I feel less hurt about it. I understand this is what tends to happen. I didn't do anything awful, just often these relationships don't survive divorce.

I'm not greatly in favour of getting in touch and I would ask yourself what you want to achieve by it. What do you hope will happen going forwards with them and what kind of contact would work for you? You could always leave others to initiate and purely be responsive.

JMHO of course and always best to remember that blood is mostly thicker than water too....

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus