Fighting my way out of the dark Part 5

[joejoe1]

Holding,

I think you did great. Remember, when a person who once had control of something lose control of what they had control of, they start to lose control of themselves. That's obviously the case here. Your wife was banging on your door, because you set a boundary. She is now just starting to understand you are serious.

I don't see a problem with the R convo, seeing how you didn't initiate it. Sounds like for the most part, you listened and validated. Is defending yourself on the E abuse situation that important. Remember, her seeing your E abusing is from her perspective and not yours. What see perceived is probably totally different from what you did. The big question is why did she see you as E abusing.

The statement from your wife about why you couldn't change and do those things before tells me two things.

1. She sees a change! Great for you. Sounds like now she has some doubt. Don't get too wrapped up in her doubt, but to me some is there now.

2. She is using you being the person you are now as an excuse to keeping moving forward on the path you'll are on.

Keep doing what you are doing.

I'm glad you kicked up your feet and smiled.

Great job.