Glad to see H is typical in his MLC. Sometimes I feel like he's doing things I've yet to read others do - no worse or better, just different. But yes, the drastic change examples are all over this forum.
I know decisions for myself regarding the D, will definitely cause more problems with H. At this point, I don't care. I am not doing it to hurt him, but just to take care of myself. He certainly hasn't had a problem doing that for himself, so I shouldn't either. I have to remember this, no matter what his reaction is. Also, glad to have a L who can manage all of this and I don't have to fight this battle directly.
I just had an IC appointment this morning. We spoke a lot about this text. Therapist affirmed his thought that this is part of H trying to exert control due to his feelings of anger/resentment. He told me that he's held back on focusing on H's motives in past sessions since H is not involved in them. I always find it interesting to hear his insight as a man and a professional, so I'm glad to finally to have some of his thoughts on this. Have to say, I do feel my own anger and resentment when I think that he wants even more control in all of this. He's got plenty already!
I've been wondering what people's thoughts are on contacting the in-laws. I text with SIL periodically, but I've been contemplating reaching out to two aunts, one on MIL side & other on FIL side. I have been feeling like I would like some closure and to be able to thank them and say goodbye. Since MIL has passed and FIL has dementia, these two would be the next best option. Through them, it would also allow me to thank & say goodbye to any others that ask. I'd do it in writing and know I'd have to watch how I word the letter. Not bashing H or getting into details but also not pretending like this isn't happening. They know. They've seen FB pics of H & OW. Any thoughts on this?
M:43 H:44 M:10 T:14 S:26 BD:7/21/17 H files for D:7/31/17 (haven't been served) PA:8/30/17
