dmoy, hello and welcome! It would help us if you could put a timeline in your signature. It sounds like you're doing well with DBing and congrats on staying sober, that's clearly a huge 180 in your case! The one thing I will say is I get the impression from reading your posts that you're expecting a turnaround too soon. Once a spouse gets to the point of dropping the bomb, they have convinced themselves that they are 100% done. You cannot convince them otherwise, and the more you try the more it pushes them away. You live for YOU. You do 180's for YOU. You GAL for YOU. Eventually her position may soften and then she'll look back, and you want her to see a stronger, better, more independent, more confidence you. That may attract her back. But you have to take a long-term approach because it can take a year or more before a WAS might change their mind. Good luck and keep posting!
