Contact from the dark side.

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Hi Irish, wise advice already from other posters and thank you for posting about the contact you have from your XW. Your situation reminds me in some ways of my online chum RD. He doesn't post much nowadays, but his W seemed in the same lost kind of place as yours.

I think the statement about feeling she was dying is so telling. That is how desperate the need to 'get out/so something' can be. The most impassioned thing XH said to me after BD was that he felt he had a big hole right at the very centre of his heart. Again, classic emptiness of depression - and desperately looking for something to feel good again.

What stood out for me is the - I didn't cheat - okay I did cheat and I need to work out why. Bouncing around. I'll still lie if I can. Oh I can't. Taking some responsibility. Delving some. Still somewhat entitled too.

Certainly not at all settled, and a long way to go yet. I'll be interested to see if she can go through with things today - she sounds extremely fragile.

Take care Irish and I hope there's something of value in this post for you xx