Whether you agree that it was an ultimatum, surely you accept that you told her that you intend to kick her out of the house she’s living in in two months unless she refinances? And you know she thinks she can’t refinance unless you take her off the marital home (which you told her you wouldn’t do) or get divorced.
Ultimatum or not, you did push her hand toward divorce. What alternative did she have?
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
