Newby here . . . (Thread 7)

[JRuss]

FG! I know it's not a great admission in this setting given the site's purpose, but I'm really happy to be divorced. Life is so much better! The kids are doing really well, which freed me up emotionally speaking to take a real look at life and what I want out of it. I know, you're supposed to do that before you divorce, and I was, in theory, but living together post-BD for more than a year -- it just didn't happen. Not really. I didn't detach fully. What I had with that woman was terrible and nothing to cling to, at all, though, in hindsight. She was a shitty wife! Most of the walkaways here are when you get right down to it, and pretty much all of the LBS can do a lot better if they believe themselves deserving of better. I know, not really DB-approved, that message I guess, but it's how I'm seeing things these days.

How are you? I know your kids have a very good dad as they adjust to life. I think of you and LT often. Brothers in Arms.