Jim, in your most recent post you said you worried that you might have been a bit too pushy with ultimatums and that you had a history of this in the m.
Check below and your other posts b/c it's a valid insight on your part.
Originally Posted By: Jim1234
Originally Posted By: Gordie
then why not do what your w suggests?
That's a good question. There's no simple answer.
My thoughts, in no particular order.... I'm pissed about the divorce and feeling a little vindictive.
I'll call the mortgage company and see if I can just drop her from the mortgage on our marital home like she suggests. If I do not push her to refi, she will let it drag out as long as I let her.
If you do NOT PUSH HER...
Jim, ^^^^
I guess I feel like if we are getting divorced, I should stop protecting her from herself and let her fend for herself. ^^^^^ Per my DB coach, "it's not a spouse's job to show the consequences or teach a lesson to them. Life does that."
In the past, she has failed to follow through on our agreements, with no real repercussions, and this time, forcing her to live with the consequences of her failure to follow through will be a huge 180.
Jim,----....
um, I guess the question is whether you can see how unlikely this is to result in a reconciliation?
Other than avoiding the "punishment for her failure", is there a reason for her to want a recon?
it's not about what you think she deserves.
It is about what helps your situation and your goal. Do you have an IC?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
