You have been patient. Why do you feel an urgency now?
You have a coaches appointment in a week. That's nit long You need to talk to her now but she's asleep. I have found that often when we are compelled to do something, it rarely is the best thing to do. Why does six months more feel too much to be worth trying?
I understand your frustration but wonder what motivates your urgency.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together