Limerence and My Situation 5

[Parkema]

Morning 25,CW,

I'm sure somewhere down the line I'll come into contact with OM but will resist and protect my boundary for as long as I can. Can't control this as she can easily flaunt him right in front of me and I wouldn't put that past her!

Not seeing him has helped me with those awful pictures we all get, you know the ones. I can't put a face to him so has helped me manage them in a funny way.

CW - your predicament can for me be seen in two ways!
1. Continue with the detaching and allow her to see what it is like to go to these functions on her own.
2. IF she is trying to RC and IF one of the reasons the MR turned sour was because of a lack of mutual interest then I would say go to the party and show the world you are supporting your MR and wife even if the OP is there. Be uber intimate with her in front of everyone and gauge there/her reaction!

I'm sure Sandi would suggest caution as WW are working on emotion NOT logic she could very well be setting YOU up to gauge the reaction from the OM who knows except you its your situation and you are ultimately in the best position to know.

I'm all for working towards RC but would side on caution with this^^^^^^^^.

Weigh up the positives verses the negatives but IF they were in an A then it's too soon to be anywhere near emotionally over for them and if RC is on the table then NC with the OM is necessary and the above situation is not helping either of them and especially you.

Tough one sit her down and try and find out her motives if she's got any..

What I'd do..? 25 is the bees here (good thing in the UK), TOTALLY depends on the "feelings" you're getting, if it all went south would you be in a worse position..? Is going a 180 for you..?

Be careful.

Mark.