Don't worry about that truth dart you sent her way. It'll remind her you won't swallow her lies or mistruths. That being said I revert to my previous post as probably being a better approach for now.

I feel empathy for your ExW. She is in a lousy place. I think she wants to improve things. Letting her talkfreely could help that occur. Down the road ye can revisit your issues. To get better that will have to be done. So wait until then for your say.

Your ExW has a long path ahead of her to reconnect with your daughters. If she considers you as hostile,iit could hinder her taking those first steps.She has already surprised you with her communication. Maybe she will again. I am not asking you to help her but rather step back and give her what she needs to follow this path.

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together