Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

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W did not file for D as she said she would. I am doing 180s, detaching, and GAL: planning weekends with the kids and inviting but not expecting W to come with us, telling my W less of what I am doing or planning, spending more time doing things for myself instead of my W, working on my car more, and doing less projects around the house (historically the majority of my freetime).

Odd sequence of events to note from last weekend...my W planned a get together for my kids friends, hot dog roast, etc. In the middle of the day, she decided my daughter was too sick, cancelled her friends, and asked me to take my daughter out to dinner and a movie during the playdate.

I agreed to do this even though I thought my daughter just has allergies. I very nicely suggested to my W that it might be allergies. My W responded with something along the line that me not wanting to take my daughter out was me being self serving, not wanting daddy-daughter time, and me being negative. The worst was that after expressing this in front of all 3 kids, she concluded with a "this is why I hate you" comment.

I let this roll off my back and took my daughter out. We came back 30 minutes early because my daughter was tired. I found that my wife was not able to start the fire pit up on her own, leaving them to cook the hit dogs on the stove...

It really seems that anytime I disagree with my W, it turns into her accusing me of being negative and ending with a "this is why I hate you". Any advice on how to handle my W negative spin on everything I say?

This scenario reminds me of another thing my W started doing...interrupting my conversations with the kids to disagree with something I said...every single time I talk to the kids with her around.