I admit to being a sucker for lost souls, but I think she was telling the truth about feeling like she was dying and needing to feel alive. I had a text or email fight with mine shortly after he left and he said that my dedication over 25 years had "damn near killed him". I believe that he believed that when he said it.
Yes there is a lot of I in this, but she is also trying to apologize, even if the truth is still difficult for her. You had already been receptive to helping her reunite with the girls. I don't think she needed to blow smoke up your butt to facilitate that. I think she probably sees the cheating as the turning point for where things got off track, but of course in all likelihood that was a symptom of what was already going on with her.
I hope she stays out for more than a few days this time for all of your sakes. I can't imagine how hard it is to sit there. I often think how I would behave under similar circumstances. I don't think I would have done nearly as well.
