Contact from the dark side.

[peacetoday]

Hi

She seems to be judging herself as well and she can see her life has gone downhill a lot
and that you may not approve of her or allow her in the lives of the girls

I set a few boundaries when my XH left..I fired him from our business with the help of a L- because he was using and getting high..
I told him them he would have a job if he straightened up-
he chose the fast life and left
It was for the best for us and our business thrived with him gone
if he hits a bottom-- he will sober up- if not, he is no good for anyone including himself
he is now D from OW but still deep in addiction

In my opinion, it may be best to let her hit a real bottom if she is using
not to help until she is clean- she is telling you- her life is a mess, so we can only guess what she has become
unless you want your girls to be around an addict- it may be best to allow her enough space and no reach outs -no help until she is really there
and it doesn't sound like she is yet-
just a clear boundary, she will only be able to reconnect with her kids when she is clean and sober-
just my opinion-