WAWWAW? Woul? Would Love Opinions. Thanks! Part 7

[DonH]

Joseph, I've been slow to provide my thoughts because I really am basing them mostly on my guy feeling/reaction to what you have been relaying about your situation. We all know how dangerous that can be, however, I actually do often have a good sense. Take it for what it's worth but here's my thoughts...

No doubt about it, from what you are writing you are handling this well - very well. Your challenge is to keep on going just as you are as I think it's working. That's going to be hard because it's already been three months which seems like a really, really long time, but honestly it will take a lot longer. Don't backslide and try to rush this and do your best not to give up.

I'm more confident about the fact that at some point your W is going to really regret what she has done. It may not be until after a D but one way or another, it seems clear - again from what you write. I may think differently if I actually was in the same room with the two of you but based on your reports, she is at least conflicted. That's why she is doing some of the things she is doing.

I would not at all be surprised if this does work out for you - or at least start to work out for you. Many of the things your W is doing mine did as well. It took from June until January for her to decide to try to work on the R. Sadly, that only lasted for about three months and our C was zero help and I actually even think she didn't want us to get back together. I can't prove that, again it's just my gut. So the point is, even if she does come back and try, it still may not work but I strongly think that is coming and you may be one of the few here with a happy ending.

Her coming to stand by you at games could be guilt or it could be she is just comfortable to do that. It could also be more. Clearly coming up with reasons to contact you is a good sign. Again, it would be mind reading on any of our parts to try to figure out why but regardless of the why, it's a good thing.

On the other hand, she could still have her mind made up and is just trying to be nice and co-parent. That is possible. My suggestions for you are you keep doing what you are doing for as long as you can. But then also, be ready for what to do should she take things to the next level. If it happens, this too will be critical to your sitch as often they will retreat back soon after. You will need to remain as detached as you are now - shrug it off, like, Um yeah, sure we can go to this event just the two of us or whatever it is.

You are the one that can make this happen. I know it's hard as hell to do but you are doing great. Either way, you are going to be fine - I just have this gut feeling you might be better than fine!