It is a shame this part of the forum isn't very active. I contemplated moving my story here but in the end post in mlc forum as there is more traffic.

Wow, what a story. Must be hard......sorry difficult for your new man too. Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together