Just some journaling:

So a couple of interesting interactions have occurred the past couple of days. On Sunday night, when I dropped the kids off my W acted like she wanted to hang out and talk. I didn't my normal in and out, 3 minutes tops, but her body language seemed different. She just seemed weird like trying to non-verbally try to talk to me.

Monday morning I get a random email from her commenting on an email that we had received from our oldest's soccer coach. He referred to our family by name in the email so she forwarded it to me asking if I saw that our family got a shot out by him (I did but didn't think it was as big of deal as she did). I thought it was interesting since she doesn't want to be part of the family but I was like whatever. I also didn't think it was something she needed to reach out to me for.

Then this morning she sends me a text letting me know that our oldest didn't do so well on her spelling or math tests. I mean I am glad she is letting me know but I don't think that is critical information to text to me at 7:30 am. Again I was like whatever but it just seems like lame reasons to reach out to me.

I know I am looking for signs and I shouldn't be but I can't help to make observations on her behavior as I continue down this path. I know it doesn't mean she wants to recon or anything like that but I do believe her stance has softened probably because I have applied absolutely no pressure to her. It does make me wonder what she is thinking in her head, I know it's really not important but she was done, ready to file and here we are almost 5 months later and nothing has happened. The longer this goes on the more control she looses every day.

I do hope she feels that I am moving forward with my life, doing things for myself and enjoying the time with my children. Most importantly I feel great with where I am at mentally. Man those first 1.5 to 2 months where hell!


Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018