Contact from the dark side.

[roist]

I read a slightly deeper message than in her previous ones. She isn't fully there yet, but she seems to be getting closer.

I could be wrong, but she appears to be facing her demons and working past them. Whether she reaches the truth or a version that she thinks will serve her best is another story. I would like to be open to it being the former, but her initial contact was an attack on your part. Plus she is apparently letting her IC decide for her.

I also think that at this stage, she knows that you won't swallow her horseshiit. So maybe a clearer version of the truth will be forthcoming.EEven if it may be wrapped in a pity party.

You seem to have your head right so you could handle this without our help/advice. But here is mine anyway:
# don't let her meet the girls alone without having met her first to assess where she is at and what her approach will be
# when ye meet, set yourself the hard target to not react to her. Let her talk as much as possible. Don't judge her, correct her or put her in her place. Hold your tongue. This will let her finish what she has to say and not get sidetracked reacting to your reaction.
# at the end thank her for opening up and say you want to consider what she said and you will get back to her.
# eliminate the thinking that this will be or is the sane old white again and again. Have an open mind.
# try interpret what she really means. By this I mean that maybe she will attack you or look for pity but she could have a good intention behind a bad communication.

I expect you may not agree with everything she says or wants. That's OK. Just remember your objective isn't about being right, it's about rebuilding a connection between your girls and their mother. Work towards that.

I too suspect she may hid behind not being ready to face you and postpone but I think this meeting will happen.

Best wishes Irish. Enjoy your few days away.