I'm going to pass along some 2x4's but that's what you get when you come here. You had an A and you are an alcoholic. LRT and going dark are NOT for the person that had an A and has a drinking problem. You need to be going to IC, AA and doing 180's the likes the which the world has never seen. 180's that are GENUINE, not just to win your W back. You need to be present, giving and humble when it comes to your W. On top of your A and your drinking problem, your W (and you too) are having to deal with a miscarriage. Thats some hard $h!t. You need to be patient and empathetic with your W. She needs time to see the NEW Dmoy, if you really have changed. Do NOT bring up R talk. Your W can do that when SHE is ready.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
